I started writing this post a few different ways already, but neither seemed right. So I tried to think about what I really wanted to say with this post and realized I mostly just want to remind anyone reading that they can do their wedding their way, instead of the way they think society and our culture wants them to.
In my first post attempt, I started talking about trends I noticed among my peers about weddings, but that scope was way too small to be anywhere near accurate. Then, in my second attempt, I tried narrowing it down to my personal experience and talking about the details of my own simple wedding, but that seemed too specific to be of general help. And neither of those approaches were very accurate in what I wanted to say.
I just want to remind readers that you have the permission to give yourself to do things your way. I planned my wedding without being familiar with minimalism or other conscious-living movements; It would have been nice to feel more supported about being different and doing things differently. That’s what I want this post to do: Support others in deviating from the status quo — bringing people back to appreciating the personal values of weddings, not the commercial-driven extravagance of grandeur and materialism.
Of course there are other factors besides your own whims to consider, such as money, family, and your partner. Ultimately, your wedding is a ceremonial celebration of your love, and it would be best to go into your wedding planning with an attitude to protect that pleasant and loving feeling no matter how things end up going.
As with a simpler life, a simpler wedding has the benefits of less cost, less worry and responsibility, less clean up, and less stress, while leaving room for more fun, more relaxation, more time, and more love.
If you are here looking for some inspiration, I’ll give you a little peek at some of the unorthodox ideas that my husband and I used in our wedding with which we were incredibly pleased:
- Engagement Ring An untraditional and ornamental ring with a small stone. About $326
- Engagement Party No registry.
- Bridal Shower Didn’t have one.
- Bachelor Party A weekend camping.
- Bridal Party Only a Maid of Honor and Best Man. They both wore what they wanted.
- Wedding Dress A short, beaded flapper dress that Andrew helped me pick out and I’ve worn again multiple times. $285
- Invitations Designed and printed them ourselves.
- Photography No video or professional photos. A friend volunteered to take photos all evening.
- Music iPod playlist compiled of song requests from RSVPs played through borrowed DJ equipment. We used the microphone for announcements and speeches whenever we wanted.
- Favors Tree saplings wrapped in tiny burlap bags.
Weddings are such a huge do now, that it feels inadequate to write such a short post about them. And yet, it feels appropriate because a wedding is just a party, after all. It’s just one day. It’s importance is in what it represents — the start of your married life together. Spend less time and energy planning the day of your wedding and more on the life of your marriage. I think you’ll find the results to be much more satisfying.