I recently went to a party with some former coworkers and it was… kind of boring and awkward. I thought it was disappointing because I had a lot of fun working with those people. But it’s been almost 2 years since I’ve worked with them and I only worked with them for about 8 months… so I just don’t know if our relationships are going to last.
It got me thinking about letting friends go just like letting things go. We let things go when they don’t have a place in our lives anymore. And I don’t want to sound cold – because these are PEOPLE we’re talking about here – but sometimes I think we have to let people go, too, when they don’t really have a place in our lives anymore.
Now, there are totally relationships that are worth working towards keeping, but I think it is important to realize when relationships aren’t worth keeping – and I think, deep down in our guts, we know which is which. It doesn’t mean that we didn’t find value in these people, or that we don’t like them, but perhaps they were situational acquaintances or we’ve grown apart. Try as we might, keeping the relationship going just doesn’t seem to work.
It would be impossible to stay in touch with everyone we’ve ever met and liked. And although we may feel a pang of sadness to let them go, we may have to acknowledge that, like that old t-shirt or supplies for a hobby you no longer participate in, it’s time to let them go anyway. We thank them for the role they played in our lives, then let them go.
It’s still hard for me to really get this. I really liked working with a lot of former coworkers, but it just doesn’t seem like we can find the time to really get together anymore. Or when we do get together, we find that our lives have moved so far apart that we don’t have very much in common or to talk about anymore. I do really appreciate these people being in my life, but I guess they just weren’t meant to be in my life forever.
And that’s okay. I trust that they were there when I needed them, or they needed me. I also trust that I will never be lonely. I have my family and strong group of friends. I also have current coworkers to connect with now. And I will undoubtedly meet many other people in the future.
Maybe the universe will bring me and those old acquaintances back together, but maybe not. I hold no grudges against them for not trying to stay constantly connected with me and hope they would extend the same courtesy.
Life is fluid and ever-changing. Things and people come and go. People change. We also need to be fluid and accept the changes – go with the flow, as they say. There will be no hard feelings if we all understand and accept this truth.
Change is the only constant is life. – Heraclitus of Ephesus